BETRAYAL

Breaking faith with past promises.

"All roads that lead away from what you are, will lead you to confusion and despair"

How do we avoid it? Change is inevitable and commitments if they are vital must be remade or renewed.Often we protect ourselves from the knowing of broken promises by pretending that nothing has changed~Denial. When we pretend that an agreement was not broken- when it has been violated, we learn to distrust ourselves & others.This damages the faith in our ability to recognize and act on the truth.We make these silent bargains everywhere, families, communities and in business.

We often look for someone to trust more than we trust ourselves. We look at words instead of actions. Perhaps this is because we know how often we betray ourselves.

How do you tell when someone is trustworthy? If they betray themselves for others, they have an inability to be true to themselves for fear of disapproval from an authority figure.

 Being trustworthy is being able to recognize when our perceptions and judgements are "off the mark" and when it is our gut giving us wisdom. Ask the question"Is this something I would do? Do I feel like 'me' if I make this decision?"  It is in recognizing moments and situations when quiet discernment of this question is necessary and seeking counsel of people who love us and can be honest with us, even if it means we do not want to hear it. This is a moment of triumph to slow things down so we can make a choice to refuse to break an agreement with ourself. This is the place where we hope wisdom will find us. WE BECOME TRUSTWORTHY IN THAT MOMENT.

Some choices will be hard to say "No" to. It takes courage to risk others approval. If we sacrifice ourselves for approval we are betraying ourselves. If we stay true to ourselves we will have to risk the moment that we will be accused of "their disappointment".

 The people in life who are the most trustworthy, have 1 common characteristic- "COURAGE" They tell the truth, even when they know it will be difficult to hurt or disappoint others to stay true to themselves.